In January 2020, I started training in Family Constellations work with my colleague Johanna Lynn in Aylmer, Quebec. I will complete this training at the end of November. Thank goodness it's been online!
This training is really just the beginning of my learning...my true teachers are you! I've been bringing this work into our sessions already, with dramatic results.
This blog series will introduce you to some of the basics of Family Constellations (FC) work. If you've been struggling with deep, persistent issues that psychotherapy or other approaches have not resolved, this may be the help you are looking for.
I like to keep my blog posts short. This one is longer. I think it's worth your time. It could change your life. It could change the fates of your children. This is why I sought training in Family Constellations work.
What is a Family Constellation?
"What's wrong with me?" Have you ever found yourself asking this question, when one of your core issues is active in your health, emotions, relationships, finances, or your sense of success in life?
So many of us spend too much time feeling inadequate and flawed. But what if you just aren't looking at your struggles with a wide enough lens? What if the block isn't yours, but something you inherited?
Our current Western culture promotes individualism. Biologically, energetically, and spiritually, this is simply inaccurate. You belong to a larger energy system. This larger energy field is your Family Constellation, or Family System.
A constellation of stars is a particular arrangement of individual stars, with each one in a particular position relative to the others. Together they form a system...such as Orion's Belt, or the Big Dipper.
You occupy a similar position relative to those you are genetically connected to. If you are in a good position where life force and love flows easily to you, things will go well in your life.
When there are unresolved traumas in the system, they block the flow of love and life-force energy. These blocks can resurface or replay masked as your personal challenge.
In your personal life history, if you have experienced an overwhelming or traumatic event which is not resolved, this energy can re-enact in your life. It's like a whirlwind of undigested or undischarged energy that can be triggered out of a dormant state and go on replay.
It does this because it is seeking resolution and healing. No one re-enacts trauma on purpose!
Re-enactment carries many of the same elements of the original trauma, but the circumstances are different.
A simple example of traumatic re-enactment:
A woman is in a car accident. Her partner is the driver, and she is in the passenger's side.
Elements connected to the event are:
2 years later, the relationship has ended. The woman takes a drive to visit a sibling living 6 hours away.
She gets curious about why she is so stirred up. She sits and feels her body. A-ha! This feels just like what happened in the UK with the car accident! As she sits with the uncomfortable sensations, she even sees scenes replay from the original incident.
Although she feels scared she will get yelled at, she has a secure enough bond with her sibling, that she risks going to him to share her experience. He expresses his feelings without blowing up and they work through it and reconnect.
Without her awareness of the underlying original trauma, this re-enactment may have ended the same as the original one. A trip ruined by anger and disconnection by all that undischarged stress.
A very dramatic example of traumatic re-enactment:
Traumatic re-enactment is really an unconscious cry for help and healing. So are your symptoms of physical or emotional pain.
Traumatic Re-enactment happens in family systems.
Blocks can be personal. We all have painful experiences growing up. There are no perfect parents, and shit happens.
Blocks can be inherited.
When a trauma occurs in the family that is not resolved, the impact, energy, and nature of that trauma gets passed down and can re-enact.
This block can be one generation back in your parents pain, it can be 2 generations back in your grandparents traumas. It can be further back, but in Family Constellations work, all the detective work we need to do usually lives in your 3 generation genogram (next blog post!).
It shows up again, hoping for healing resolution. Learning how to recognize these re-enacting patterns is the area of expertise for FC work.
In my next blog post on Family Constellations:
Your 3 Generation Genogram: Tracking the Pain you Carry to it's Origin.
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Ready to get to the root of your pain? I can help you resolve personal trauma from your personal life experiences, and help you track down inherited family trauma and heal it.
Let's start with a Free 30 minute consult to see if this is the right path to healing for you.